Let's Be Selfie-ish!
I have a love/hate relationship with the notion of selfies.
Like most social media users, I like to document a great hair day or a rare winged eyeliner success (I genuinely can't remember the last time that happened), but as soon as I hit 'post', the selfie-regret comes knocking. Do people think I'm arrogant? Are they gonna screenshot me and send it to their 'Squad' group text? They know I've just spent 10 minutes getting this 'spontaneous' photo, don't they? 11 likes, woo! WHAT HAVE I DONE.
I know, I need to chill.
But as someone who lives for self-deprecation, these are real thoughts that pop into my mind.
And let's be honest, in a world where we're obsessed with people's lives on Instagram, I'm not exactly the only person posting them. But still, the feeling remains.
So, I decided to rationalise these thoughts and came up with this life decision:
Do what makes you happy and don't give a shit what other people think.
Oh, it's so liberating! Feeling proud of your body? Take a photo! Loving your eye make up? Post it ASAP! Digging your outfit? Get it on Instagram, gurl. And on days when I'm still caring what people will think, I just post on Instagram Stories and the evidence is gone within 24 hours. It's foolproof!
But the big thing I take away from this mantra is not about validating selfies, but how I can regain control of how I want to share images of my life without feeling like I might be being perceived incorrectly.
The internet is a funny old place and somewhere I'm becoming more inclined to shy away from, but you can't deny the opportunities that lie within it. Once upon a time I had a fairly popular fashion blog with a loyal readership, but I became self conscious about my blogging skills and decided to delete it off the face of the cloud. And poof, five years worth of work was gone. Which was a bit silly now I think about it. With writing still being my main passion and my current nomad lifestyle providing perfect travel backdrops, I have decided to get back on the horse and foster my own spot on the web. Selfies and all.
So the moral of the story is this: don't compare yourself to others, don't care too much about what other people may think of you, and grab life by the balls and put yourself out there.
It works Zoella, right?